Sometimes your words follow me home and echo into the night.
“You could tell two stories about our relationship
and they are both true.”
“I’ve been so tired I had a dream that I was sleeping.”
“I am so tired of failing and disappointing her and being someone I’m not.
I want someone who accepts me for who I am.”
“I think giving myself more grace is better for me and I’m
less frustrated with [my spouse].”
“It’s not that it doesn’t hurt me, it’s that I’m used to it hurting me.”
“I need to find a way to make my brain relax at night!”
“I was so focused on those negative things about her, I lost sight of all her strengths.”
“I just need to hang in there.”
“I felt like I was blowing in the wind on a really long string really really far away
and that he wouldn’t care if I blew away.”
(“What is your greatest emotional need in this relationship?”)
“I don’t know the right words but. . . [turning to partner] I want to belong to a group.
And the group I want to belong to is you.”
Kristen Stone, PhD 